Inspirational quotes, inspiring stories

How to Develop Trust

Trust is one of the most important virtues but not everyone is able to trust others easily. Reasons could vary such as, a terrible experience of emotional, physical abuse or neglect, been emotionally hurt in the past or relationship problems in the past or loss of a loved one etc. There are several other reasons as well but it is not an easy task to develop trust after a sad or bitter experience. In order to develop trust, one must accept himself/herself completely. It is the first and most important step if you want to develop a trusting relationship with others. The key to the development of trust is self-love and self-affirmation.

Let go of all fears restricting your emotional growth. It could be fear of rejection, hurt, of unknown, or success or intimacy. These fears are blocks to developing trusting relationships and can impede relationship growth. Don’t be afraid of relationships. Try to be your actual self with others. There is no point having sense of competition, jealousy, and defensiveness with significant others in your life. These elements create barriers. Getting rid of these attributes can help in developing mutual trust.

Don’t be afraid of accepting who you are. Your inability to trust others, perceived lack of healthy self-esteem, accepting your weaknesses etc are some of the things that you can accept with others. This self-disclosure reveals you as you know yourself. It is easier to trust that which is real than that which is unreal or hidden. Believe in the goodness of humankind. Not all people are evil, bad, or ill-willed. Trust people and it will pay.  Finally, believe in life and fairness of it. If you are good, goodness will come back to you.


Importance of Focus and Challenges

Do you feel happy and satisfied after completing each of your tasks in a perfect manner? Yes must be the common answer. Whenever we complete a work in time, in a perfect way, we feel good about the entire process. If you don’t like a work then don’t do it but if you have decided to complete a task or you have been assigned a job then you must strive to accomplish it in the best way possible. Improvement is the key here. Keep improving until you feel, there is nothing more that you can add.

You are most likely to enjoy the task at hand when you are totally focused on one task. Don’t see the task as a means to an end. Try visualizing the task as a pleasant process and you will excel at it. Focusing on a particular task fuels motivation and makes you give your positive energy into it. Success is bound to follow after that.

As focus is much important to successful completion of a task, so is the ability to challenge yourself. Challenges can change your life in a dramatic fashion. Challenges makes you face new situations, shift your comfort zone and makes you aware of your hidden potential. Life wouldn’t remain the same without interesting challenges. In order to lead a quality life, one must seek challenges. They help you in analyzing your true self, your likes and dislikes and your preferences. Together with focus, challenges have the ability to transform your life. Go for them.

The Law of Thinking

There is a concept called the law of thinking according to which the state of your mind will be reflected in the external world. In other words, if your thinking pattern is positive, you will live positively and most of the events taking place in your life will be positive. But if your thinking way is inclined towards fearful and negative thoughts, you will find same happening in your external world. That implies, power is in mind and what it thinks. Your mind is a tool that must be used in an affirmative way.

You must have noticed if you are happy, you will be usually surrounded by positive friends and family. The law of thinking is not a naturally gifted thing. It is in our hands to make it work our way. Considering the benefits it offers including, producing great outcomes, consciously creating our reality, developing the habit of positive state of mind, understanding the causes of our current results etc, we must strive to learn and use the law of thinking.

The process should begin with trying to consciously control what you are thinking about. There is no point dwelling on negative thoughts. Think only what you would like to come into your reality. The law of thinking is not just restricted to thoughts. It also applies to words and you must say only what you want to manifest in your life. The law of thinking is actually a very important universal law that can change your life drastically in a positive way. Positivity breeds positivity and that will help you in consciously creating a life full of happiness and success.

Inspiration for Developing Reading Habit

How many of you can claim to be good readers? Plenty, eh?! If you are then, I must appreciate you because reading is fast becoming a vanishing art. Blame it on time constraints or advent of ebooks or plain lack of willingness but not many are left with inclination to indulge in deep, thoughtful reading habit. The situation has come to such a pass that, every other day we come across reading events being organized by some publishing companies or social organizations. There has been a significant decrease in print readership and some doomsayers are predicting the fall of print journalism.

This is not a healthy sign at all. What happened to the notion of ‘Good leaders are good readers’? Reading is more like a tool in our hands that must be sharpened and practiced on a regular basis. A famous writer had once revealed that ‘if we read for two hours every day on any subject, in five years, we would become national experts on that particular subject. And in ten years, we would have the equivalent of a Ph.D!’ that’s some food for thought. More so, if you manage to develop the habit of book reading, you will be several years ahead of an average person. The idea itself is tempting enough.

Book reading is the ultimate joy in life. It fills you with new hopes, and knowledge. It is a morale-boosting habit. Quality reading equips you with new perspectives. Moreover, it gives you enhanced dose of confidence knowing that you possess more knowledge and information than an average Joe. So what are you waiting for? Stop making any excuse and pick your favorite book lying in shelf for months untouched. Take the initiative and make a difference to your life.

Handling Problems and Stress

If modern world has given us many facilities, it has also brought some unpleasant things. Yes, I am talking about problems and stress. Who is not affected with the malaise of stress? It is almost like, more money, more success, and more fame then also more stress. And you need to live with it. So how to deal with this universal phenomenon? First, accept that you cannot run away from stress and problems. They are going to be there.

 If you accept the existence of problems, you have already made a good beginning towards solving it. Because, there is no point denying the existence of something that is there in your life. Accepting the chain of problems will make rest of the task easier. Now you can focus on what are the problems and what is it that causes you stress. Don’t just sit there moaning over problems. Make a move. Don’t just sit idle and think about series of problems affecting your life.

 As they say, ‘smell the roses’ which simply means, go out, visit a new place and feel the flow of new energy moving in your body. A good trip is a great stress buster. It has terrific healing effect. Just switching off your mind from what is going around you is a wonderful way to relax and rejuvenate. 

 If you are looking for a quick-fix solution to your stress, just call one of your true friends. You must be having few good friends whom you can always rely upon. Just talk to them, ask for suggestions or simply share whatever is going in your mind. You will realize that just expressing your thoughts have made you lighter. Laugh a little. It will help you in relieving tension and loosening the tightened muscles. Finally, if nothing works, pray. No matter, what religion you believe in, but almighty is one for all of us. Pray and feel good. Remember, life is good. Almost always.

Famous Happiness Quotes

So what’s the most common thing universally desired by entire human civilization? Still thinking or just wondering what to choose from success, satisfaction, peace or Happiness? Yes, I agree that all of them are important but perhaps purpose of all the activities performed by humans is just one and that is happiness. The search of happiness has remained an ever-going process for mankind. This is what led Prince Siddhartha to turn into Buddha. Happiness is what many illustrious sages sought while meditating for years. All the actions are of no use if happiness cannot be attained. So let’s have a look at some of the most relevant and helpful happiness quotes.

 What are the aims which are at the same time duties? They are perfecting of ourselves, the happiness of others.

– Immanuel Kant

 The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.

– Erasmus

 Great efforts from great motives is the best definition of a happy life.

– William Ellery Channing

I have learnt to seek my happiness in limiting my desires, rather than attempting to satisfy them.

– John Stuart Mill

 Fortify yourself with contentment, for this is an impregnable fortress.

– Epictetus

 Contentment is a pearl of great price, and whoever procures it at the expense of ten thousand desires makes a wise and a happy purchase.

– John Balguy

 We are never so happy, nor so unhappy, as we suppose ourselves to be.

– Francois de La Rochefoucauld

 Happiness consists not in having much, but in wanting no more than you have.

– Lydia Maria Child

 A man who finds no satisfaction in himself seeks for it in vain elsewhere.

– Francois de La Rochefoucauld

 Every man has in himself a continent of undiscovered character. Happy is he who acts the Columbus to his own soul.

– Sir J. Stephen

 Oh, be he king or peasant, he is happiest

Who in his home finds peace.

– Goethe

 Happiness is where we find it, but very rarely where we seek it.

– J. Petit Senn

 Condition, circumstance, is not the thing;

Bliss is the same in subject or in king.

– Alexander Pope

 To be secure, be humble. To be happy, be content.

– James Hurdis

 It is not great, but little good-haps that make up happiness.

– J. Paul F. Richter

 Happy the man, and happy he alone,

He who can call today his own:

He who, secure within, can say —

Tomorrow, do thy worst, for I have lived today.

– John Dryden


The Blessings of Life

Recently I came across a story that at once made me feel sad and at the same time, forced me to think about blessings of God that sometimes remain unnoticed to our eyes. There is this high probability of people reading this article are comfortably sitting in a good chair, enjoying blessings of life. It is also likely that you don’t really have to worry about hunger, starvation, poverty and other such existential issues. But do you really feel like going back to your past once in a while and acknowledging or even accepting what parents, family members and friends have done for you?  Do you feel like thanking them for even small deeds? Or your expectation gets better to those feelings of gratitude? Well, the answer lies within you but what you can do in meantime is to read this touching story and then perhaps, you will know what you are supposed to do!

“A young man was getting ready to graduate college. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer’s showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted. As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation his father called him into his private   study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box.

Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible. Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said, “With all your money you give me a Bible?” and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business. He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care of things. When he arrived at his father’s house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart.

He began to search his father’s important papers and saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he read those words, a car key dropped from an envelope taped behind the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer’s name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words…PAID IN FULL.”