Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: Inferiority Complex, Overcoming Inferiority Complex, personality development, tips for attitude building
One of the psychological problems faced by lot of people at different stages of their lives is lack of confidence and low self esteem. This is not a good stage to be in at any point of time. These two menaces can make a person feel inferior and he starts thinking that he is less talented than other people. One must strive to overcome this problem. It is difficult, yes but then nothing comes easy in life. Inferiority complex is responsible for filling up your mind with negative thoughts which over the period turn out to be a huge problem. Overcoming inferiority complex is key to increase self-esteem.
To start with, one must try to think positively. To develop a god personality, positive thoughts must replace negative thoughts. The trick is to think positively about not only you but also people around you and society in general. Often sense of inadequate physical appearance makes one feel inferior. In such conditions, one should try to groom himself. It can be done by improving dressing sense and taking good care of your physical appearance. If someone lacks a particular thing, he feels inferiority complex. To handle such situations, one needs to focus upon his strengths and ignore what you do not have. No one in this world is perfect so why even bother about this issue? One should also try to improve his skills. Develop your attitude and life will again appear beautiful.
Filed under: Igniting Our Will | Tags: Being gracious, manners, personality tips
If you start judging the world with some perfect standards, you will disappoint yourself because the world will fail miserably on your tests. When someone tells you that you did a good job, appreciate the comment and say thank you. Do not start to ramble on how you failed to reach your goals and how unsatisfied you are with this current report.
When someone appreciates your performance or praises your attire, do not put yourself down. That is not being humble. Putting yourself down in turn sets you up as a superior person. It sounds like you are fishing for compliments. Even if you are not, the other person feels that you are putting him down because you are not appreciating his comments or thanking him for his kind gesture. You also come across as a person who is never satisfied in life. You are belittling the other person’s opinion.
Just be a gracious person in accepting thanks and appreciations. Be gracious in accepting your debt to others. Be gracious to people who helped you on your way. Be gracious to favors that others have shown. Be gracious when someone is remembering you. Be gracious in forgiving some oversights. After all it is only from your mistakes that you learn more than from your successes.
When you are gracious, others in your immediate environment also become gracious. All it takes is one person being gracious so as to make a difficult situation becoming easy and moving on smoothly.
Forgiveness is a great virtue to have. It has been said that “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” How true! The need of forgiveness arises from anger. Anger because few expectations have not been met or you have been betrayed or you have been robed of some deserving rewards. But thinking of it, isn’t anger a very interesting emotion? We humans are supposed to experience all sort of emotions. And emotions are as varied as they come. But as per society’s dictum we are not supposed to express all the negative emotions. Rather we have been taught to deny some so called negative emotions.
It has been ingrained in us that getting rid of anger is one of the most important aspects of our lives. Society preaches us these thing and we are expected to listen to them. But what is the fallout of such sin of suppression? Anger is not a bad thing as such. What is bad, however is holding anger inside you without providing it a let out. Have you ever noticed that sometimes we suppress anger for hours, days or even years and that result in unpleasant scenarios? Suppressing our anger has such deep roots that quite often we even forget that we are holding onto a potent weapon. But remember anger always manifests itself in some form or other. It would be foolhardy to underestimate the potency of this weapon. We will further dwell on this subject in coming articles.
Filed under: Igniting Our Will | Tags: human values, ideal living, Value of Integrity
The word ‘integrity’ must be one of the most used words in personal as well as professional sphere. You must have heard of this term from your parents, teachers and in your corporate life. This word traces its origin to Latin word ‘integer’ that means ‘whole’. Integrity is undoubtedly a very crucial word in our life simply because the meaning it conveys. It refers to completeness, totality and wholeness. It’s a complete word with no terms and conditions attached. So why are we talking about this word?
Well, just to put across the point that a strong human always possess this rare virtue called integrity. It’s almost like you are in sync with your deepest core. You are truthful and aligned with who you are. Its not one-off condition or event. Its ongoing process and a quality that must be retained at all cost. Integrity indicates the need of speaking what you know to be truth. Truth may often cause conflict what then every good thing comes at a price. Acting as per your personal values is great achievement. Like all other achievements, attaining integrity demands hard work and persistence but few things are worth striving for despite all the hardships involved.
Let me quote something by Byron Katie- “The voice within is what I’m married to. All marriage is a metaphor for that marriage. My lover is the place inside me where an honest yes and no come from. That’s my true partner. It’s always there. And to tell you yes when my integrity says no is to divorce that partner.” I hope that sums it up.
Filed under: Inspiration | Tags: Changing Core Beliefs, core beliefs, inspired living
The concept of core beliefs holds a very significant importance in any human’s life. It has been said that our physical foundation refers to core stability or alignment of our movement whereas mental or psychological foundation is represented by our core beliefs. Core beliefs tend to develop into a set way, a set pattern as we grow older. The question that comes in my mind is whether we are well supported by our beliefs? Do beliefs play their role in making us go where we want to be?
We have our beliefs intact in the same place since so many years. But sometimes, we need to recognize that core beliefs have played their part and are no longer instrumental in any sort of development and growth. We need to learn skills that can identify such beliefs and guide us where and how to proceed. The biggest limitation towards the journey of change and transformation is the thought that we can not change. Thinking that, we have been designed this way and we will continue to perform like this forever. Wrong. It does not happen that way.
If you look deep inside you will find that some of the beliefs no longer support you in your cause or should I say greater goal. Just looking at your potential and thinking that what wonder can I achieve if I change few of my core beliefs. Life would start appearing more meaningful. It’s all about you believing in whatever you want to believe. Trust me; the results will more than surprise you, of course in a positive way.
There are times when we feel absolutely confused. We cannot see the road ahead of us. We lose the sense of direction and there are thousand things that hit our minds. These are the times when you need to take a deep breath and look at yourself. Some of the obvious ways to avoid this kind of chaos and confusion in work is to be systematic and organized. But to be like that all the time is not possible. It is indeed human to be confused. Hence there is nothing wrong about it. So accept the fact that you are in confusion. This will help to solve half your worries.
Now try to avoid all that you can. Strike out all the activities that can be postponed for the time being and concentrate on the one that is of utmost importance. Forget about all other things and put all the energies in the world and within you to accomplish that task. Keep a deadline for it and do not go overboard or extend the time in completing that one thing because there are a lot of other things also that are in queue.
Now find time for yourself and your calmness and peace to breathe. Relax. Refresh and rejuvenate. This will increase the productivity for the next task. Remember that it is very essential to spend atleast half an hour with your own self trying. Be silent. Do not think about work. Think about all the things that make you happy.
We should feel contended if we want to feel simple and light. Be a holistic person. A person who is calm, composed, sort out in his minds, smart and witty.
Filed under: Inspiration
Listen. When people are talking, when the birds are chirping in the morning, when your dad is expressing an opinion, when your sister is confessing something, when the maid is expressing her grief, when your girl friend is talking about her pimples, when your brother is demanding a new bike, when your niece is calling you, when…just listen.
Sometimes, just listening can be a great way to soothe the other person. Plain listening, not talking back means that you are trying to understand the other person. You may or may not necessarily agree to what they have to say. It does not matter. What matters is the fact that you are listening. You are lending them your ears, your time and then surely make the opposite person feel there is somebody who is there to listen to them. There are many talkers in this world but there are very few listeners.
May be what the other person is saying is full of mistakes, full of distortions; it is important not to correct the person then. Listen with sincerity. It won’t kill you. You do not need to prove your point here. Just listen.
A good listener is the one that hears the unspoken thought. Only after the other person has finished mention that innermost thought. This will make the other person feel that you heard him and that you understood what he or she was trying to say. Listen. There is nothing quite like being heard.
Filed under: Igniting Our Will | Tags: Not losing heart, self-belief, strength
One of the common factors of de-motivation that I have seen in people is failures and dejection. We tend to give so much importance to our failures that coming out of it seems difficult. Moving on is something that is uncommon in Indians. Somehow people tend to be in a state of inertia and they do not want to come out of their grief. Once they lose their heart, they do not want to build it back – be it in relationship, in career or even in families. It is true that accepting a death or a failure for a promotion or accepting failure in examinations is difficult to cope with. But one needs to get over that and move on.
Losing heart while you are still living on is almost equivalent to killing yourself. It is you who need to build the bridge between the sorrowful event that has passed and the new beginning that is awaiting you. It is you who has to walk through the bridge and reach the other end. Only people who have the courage to restart or begin from a new start succeed and live life in its totality.
Take a lover who has lost his girlfriend. Crying and being depressed for the lost love is natural but time needs to play its role. You cannot waste your life crying because this way you are abusing the relationship that you shared with your lover because the primary purpose of the relationship was to be happy and you are just not doing that.
Take a businessman for instance. He has suffered a huge loss but he cannot afford to lose his heart. He needs to have the strength and the determination to rebuild and earn money to compensate for his losses.
In life you cannot lose three things: your will, your heart and your determination. Without these three, there is no meaning to life.
Filed under: Inspiration | Tags: Fear of Losing, inspired life, motivation article, self-motivation
One of the worst fears that come to a human mind is fear of losing. It’s a hard feeling to accept. But how hard we try; we can not make someone stick with us forever. Sooner or later something drastic is bound to happen. If not any misunderstanding or personal problem then the eventual reality of death is sure to part our ways with our loved ones. Death is the ultimate truth that can not be negated or denied. So how should we approach it? Isn’t it as simple as accepting it much beforehand and create a mindset that will allow us to remain our balance even during worst of conditions.
Realizing that parting is imminent opens another stage towards acceptance of this bitter reality. At the same time, it also gives us a chance to think positively. Knowing that end is nearer so why not make the relationship more beautiful and special. We can always travel that extra yard to make other persons feel special. It could just be a simple visit or a phone call or even a letter or personal e-mail. We don’t need to do magic to make other feel good. The basic and simple things are most endearing one. Remember, when a relationship was formed it was because of the fact that both sides found some similarities and goodness in each other. There were no flashy signs of affection or sky didn’t thunder when you formed a particular relationship. Relationship grows out of mutual respect, admiration and understanding. So let’s just keep these facts in mind and make our relationships special without any fear of losing them.
Filed under: Musings Of Life | Tags: Carry On, inspired life, the magic of life
Life never turns out the way we plan. In fact it always takes a different route. Sometimes, We don’t like the way life turns out because we feel sad, depressed and devastated when things turn out differently. But then what’s the meaning of life that takes place as per our plans. Then life will be termed as repetitive and predictable. We human thrive on unpredictability and sudden changes witnessed in life give us the real fun. So instead of moaning and cribbing out the life, lets just chant ‘carry on’ even when things are not exactly very rosy and colorful. It’s always easier to give up but it’s always a sign of strength when we stand up and carry on. Let’s share this fascinating poem that tells us the virtue of carrying on even during adverse conditions.
Carry On!!
It’s easy to fight when everything’s right,
And you’re mad with the thrill and the glory;
It’s easy to cheer when victory’s near,
And wallow in fields that are gory.
It’s a different song when everything’s wrong.
When you’re feeling infernally mortal;
When it’s ten against one, and hope there is none,
Buck up, little soldier, and chortle:
Carry on! Carry on!
There isn’t much punch in your blow.
You’re glaring and staring and hitting out blind;
You’re muddy and bloody, but never mind.
Carry on! Carry on!
You haven’t the ghost of a show.
It’s looking like death, but while you’ve a breath,
Carry on, my son! Carry on!
And so in the strife of the battle of life
It’s easy to fight when you’re winning;
It’s easy to slave, and starve and be brave,
When the dawn of success is beginning.
But the man who can meet despair and defeat
With a cheer, there’s a man of God’s choosing;
The man who can fight to Heaven’s own height
Is the man who can fight when he’s losing.
Carry on! Carry on!
Things never were looming so black.
But show that you haven’t a cowardly streak,
And though you’re unlucky you never are weak.
Carry on! Carry on!
Brace up for another attack.
It’s looking like hell, but – you never can tell;
Carry on, old man! Carry on!
There are some who drift out in the deserts of doubt,
And some who in brutishness wallow;
There are others, I know, who in piety go
Because of a Heaven to follow.
But to labor with zest, and to give of your best,
For the sweetness and joy of the giving;
To help folks along with a hand and a song;
Why, there’s the real sunshine of living.
Carry on! Carry on!
Fight the good fight and true;
Believe in you mission, greet life with a cheer;
There’s big work to do, and that’s why you are here.
Carry on! Carry on!
Let the world be the better for you;
And at last when you die, let this be your cry:
Carry on, my soul! Carry on!
By- Robert W. Service.
